Tips for BDSM newbies

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I just sent this reply (below) to a new person’s polite request to be considered and give them a few pointers. I wrote……

https://mistressdarkrose.com/services

To be clear – I’m friending you on fetlife, not considering you.

As you’re new to this lifestyle I’ll give you these pointers…

  1. Address a Dominant as they wish to be addressed – you need to ask, not assume.
  2. Read profiles properly before contacting anyone – you’re likely to be admonished, but most likely you’ll just be ignored (and left wondering why). The other side of the coin is you may be giving your adoration to someone who doesn’t deserve it – read back on their history and comments etc before you devote yourself to them
  3. Please address Me as Mistress, not Goddess. If you’d read My profile properly, you would know I’m not into body worship, nor am I looking for a slave/boi.
  4. Careful with your wording, especially if messaging someone. “Considering” has a different meaning in BDSM than real life, for example.
  5. Join some CD / slave groups (type your interest into the Search bar) and learn from mentors of similar nature, be polite and ask questions.. Make sure to read the group rules before you join, you don’t want to get kicked out because you overlooked it
  6. Don’t post opinions on anything here – fetlife is for networking, not gossip or bad karma – there’s already plenty of that IRL
  7. Try to meet people at munches and social gatherings – don’t go out with the sole purpose of “looking” for a Dominant. If you search “Places” rather than Events, you’ll find local activities there. The right person will come along – it will happen organically and as it’s supposed to

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With these rules in mind, I’m sure you’ll find it easier to explore this amazing lifestyle with confidence and meet many wonderful like minded souls. But always remember, follow your instincts.

Yours in kink
MDR

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What kind of Domme are you?

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When I first met My partner in 2008 he had been in the kink scene for all of his adult life. He kept telling me I was a Domme. I had no idea what that meant.

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So I did a lot of research online and I joined sites like fetlife.com, alt.com and collar.me and figured I was dominant/bossy by My very nature. And obsessed with the kink scene. In fact, I took to the lifestyle with gusto, attending every party, munch and event I could to learn how to be a good Domme.

It wasn’t until a few years later I discovered I was also a sadist. Saying I discovered it was not really correct. It was actually nurtured / borne out by a submissive mentor and long-term fetish friend.

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Being labelled a Domme doesn’t necessarily cover the full nature of dominance in My experience. I’ve come across so many different styles of domination – to categorise yourself under one title is IMHO a misnomer. I’ve encountered so many different styles over the past many years. From women who just want to be the “boss in the bedroom” to sadists whose singular satisfaction comes from torturing their submissive/slaves.

There are women who want to humiliate and objectify their slaves.  Others who want their slaves to prove devotion through trials of pain and suffering. Then there are the ones who just want to be worshipped and adored (including body worship), being waited on hand and foot by a devoted servant.

Being a sadist by nature, I’m the kind of Domme who likes My servants to undergo trials to prove their devotion to Me. This has been done in many ways – financial tributes, gifts, acts of service, enduring pain and suffering, deprivation (of senses and liberty) at My hand. Masos are My genuine favourites.

Although I am inclined to show great amusement at My slaves’ discomfort, I’m not someone who is into humiliation or degradation as I feel it has negative connotations and is not a good base for a deep connection with someone.

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I’m not saying Dommes have to fit into one specific category but the majority of My nature fits into the “trials to prove devotion” category. I have had My share of body worship over time with play partners. Not in my professional career. I’m a little old-fashioned in that I don’t believe a Domme should have to be undressed in the presence of a client, let alone sharing body fluids. I have on occasion done golden showers but I prefer to put My urine in a bowl to make sure none of it is wasted.

It’s been a fascinating adventure being in the fetish community. I have a natural interest in the perverse (don’t we all?). I’ve always felt comfortable around naked people of all ages and genders, having been a registered nurse (My first career) for 13 years. Those years of nursing taught Me so much about reading people, especially under duress, how to watch body language, how to establish rapport and trust with the people I deal with.

Being open, honest and forthright (professional) has held Me in good stead over the years. It isn’t that I command respect as a Dominant (respect should be earned, not blindly given) but I do expect it. Having spent many years honing My skills and treating people well I feel I deserve respect – I’ve earned My stripes.

So what kind of Domme are you, or what do you aspire to be? I’ve had the benefit of some really great mentors over the years, some not even dominant. But how to find them? – especially now there are less chances to socialise than there were “back in the good old days”.

We’re lucky to have resources like fetlife.com to do some really good research, join groups, have discussions, socialise and have genuine questions answered by like-minded souls all over the world.

This isn’t a plug for fetlife as such – if I could have found another site that was more informative, I’d be plugging that. I’m just grateful I did most of My apprenticeship through “real life” situations. But I didn’t get there by not doing My online research first.

Dommes have a huge responsibility – to be knowledgeable and skilled. Don’t expect to be worshipped/respected/trusted if you can’t get your act together. You owe it to your slaves/submissives to earn their willingness to serve you.

Newbies and diehards alike

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As an experienced BDSM Mistress and Sadist, I encounter people of all ages and backgrounds to play with.

Establishing that first connection leads to a uniquely memorable experience for My clients.  I’m able to do that because I am a consummate professional and a good communicator.  I can put people at ease within minutes of first meeting Me.  It’s not a gift – it’s a skill I’ve worked hard on over the years. And I’ve done it because I’m altruistically by nature.  I want everyone I meet to be better for having spent time with Me.

newbies and diehards alikeI love this lifestyle – I love the energy and fun that comes from a sensual dynamic with another person or couple.  Co-topping is one of My favourites – it’s so gratifying being able to give back to this amazing lifestyle.  I never stop learning. I’m always keen to know more and learn from others (and My own experiences, of course).  It’s a hedonistic way of life, and so much fun! Who would want it any other way?

Whether you’re a diehard maso or a newbie with few notions of what to expect, our first encounter will be memorable and tailored to what presses your buttons.  That is, unless you leave it to My devices.  Then you’ll be challenged and impressed by how well you served your Mistress.

I won’t leave any physical marks on you (unless it’s agreed), but you won’t forget your time with Me

Text or email Me today to come and test yourself…

MDR

0499 978 955

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My style of FUNishment

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It’s no surprise that I’m a caning and corporal punishment specialist – I am a sadist, after all.

I have a vast collection of canes and impact toys, and enjoy challenging My clients with My unique style of “FUNishment”.

https://mistressdarkrose.com/services

I’ve been a lifestyle and Professional Domme for over 14 years now and have honed My skills so I can deliver intensity in a safe and effective manner.

I’m also a BDSM purist and believe wholeheartedly in respect for My skills and demeanour. Having said that, I am friendly, caring and easy to spend time with.

Why not experience My style of intensity for yourself? I can promise it will be challenging but you will be pleasantly surprised at how you perform in My presence.

My well-appointed private dungeon is located in Hendra, 4km north of the Brisbane CBD. It’s available for hire, so please PM Me or check My website if you want to know more.

Here’s what slave m had to say about his last visit…

“I asked for a good spanking and that is what MDR gave me.  I have known and allowed MDR to play with me since 2015, either impact play or dressing me up as a sissy.  I have always come away fulfilled.  And a tad marked lol  MDR is both beautiful and a hard taskmaster with a caring soul.  I would invite anyone to visit and have the pleasure of Her domination.”

My fees and other interests are listed on My website. I do not undress or offer full service.

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Message Me for an appointment to experience true Domination.
Website: https://mistressdarkrose.com
Mobile: 0499 978 955

Yours in kink
Mistress Dark Rose

 

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Genuine BDSM Mistress Brisbane

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Why choose to see Me when there are so many pretty little things out there who look better in latex and are prepared to do watersports, toilet training, body worship?

What makes Me such a brilliant Pro Domme?

genuine bdsm mistress brisbaneOne of My longstanding clients (who first saw Me in 2015) told Me I offer the best value for money of any Mistress he’s ever seen.  Why?  Because I don’t waste time doing things he can do with his partner in his everyday life.  BDSM is a specialty – it’s taken Me years to hone My skills and follow My natural inclinations and enthusiasm for this amazing lifestyle.

I’m a genuine lifestyle Dominatrix and Sadist, not a sex worker with a couple of toys.  My tools are My intuition, maturity, My sense of fun and suspense.  Knowing that, My focus is still heavily swayed towards safety and consent, leaving no marks (unless they are agreed, of course).  Instinctively I know how to push your limits, but My style will leave you feeling satisfied that you pleased your Mistress and your “itch” has been scratched.

My well equipped dungeon is located in My home in Hendra.  It’s discreet, close to the city, gateway arterial, airport, easy parking and I’m available most days between 9am and 9pm.  I don’t work late or do outcalls as I like My clients to get the full benefit of being in My dungeon, with everything at My fingertips, neither of us worn out from a long day.

I see plenty of “pretty little things” come and go over the years, advertising exorbitant rates, demanding 50% deposits (which don’t appear to be easily refundable).  A lot of them overcharge as they have to book someone else’s dungeon to impress.  Sometimes it’s not a case of “getting what you pay for”.  I could write a book about past experiences My clients have shared with Me over the years with visits to so-called “Mistresses” – scary stuff.

At the end of the day, everyone has the right to hang up a shingle and charge what they wish – just make sure they deserve your trust.

TEXT Me for your next genuine, value-added BDSM experience

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Another happy client

Mistress Dark Rose writes from Her private dungeon……

 

Another happy client (even though I thought him a bit of a wuss lol).  He writes
Hi Mistress,
Thanks for being a gracious host this Arvo. Probably been ten or fifteen years since my last session. Apologies for being a woos, fantasy is much less painful than reality.lol. I knew from the first cane stroke, that I was in the wrong place. Witnessing the cane being administered on your own bottom was a highlight to me. Standing/ bending whilst side on and next to the mirror, watching the action unfold, in real time…so so cool. Especially cool considering its made the top five, in the wank bank section of my brain.lol.
I also loved checking out the stripes with you in the mirror…my lilly white arse, had welts raising whilst crimsoning before our very eyes. Being able to see how much of a swing you took and the speed generated… mesmerising. You kept asking if I was ready, there was never any chance of me being surprised…I was watching you like a hawk.
The way I mark up, there could be a new career for me as a bottom model..I might have to put my blossoming foot model career on hold and re-evaluate.
Thanks again Mistress Dark 🌹.
https://mistressdarkrose.com/dungeon

 

Even though I’ve been a lifestyle and Pro Domme since 2008, people still surprise Me.  I honestly didn’t expect to hear from this client again, as he seemed disappointed during our session.  I realised after receiving his message that his disappointment wasn’t focused at Me, but rather his lack of tolerance.  In My experience, if you’re masochistically inclined, you need to be doing it on a regular basis to keep your pain threshold up.  Even the most die hard pain sluts started light and worked their way up. 

I’m a Sadist, perfectly suited to test your limits.

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BDSM Dungeon Mistress Brisbane

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When I hire out My dungeon, My presence as Dungeon Mistress is a given.  I’ve invested significantly in both My equipment, My space and My reputation and expertise over the past fourteen years.

Co-topping is a fantastic experience for all involved.  Here’s what one of My recent Mistresses had to say about Her/their first time in My dungeon………….

I can’t thank you enough for allowing me and my slave access to your wonderful dungeon recently. He certainly was overwhelmed by the sheer size and all that amazing equipment. I must admit, not having a dungeon of my own, I was a little wary of the experience too, but you put us both at ease so quickly, we felt like old friends. Having you guide me through basic restraint, sounding and CBT really has boosted my confidence with my slave. Also your wicked sense of humour, suspense and timing really heightened the experience for both of us, with unexpectedly pleasant results. And the time just flew! We are looking forward to treating ourselves again soon. Thank you so much.

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Follow up note – My dungeon has been reconfigured with My recent move to Hendra – it’s now split into two rooms.  I’ve allocated one space for spanking,  impact play and caning, the other for activities requiring the medical bed and bondage, the list goes on……….lol

TEXT Me for more information on 0499 978 955

Yours in kink

MDR

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BDSM introductory workshop

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Are you and your partner interested in BDSM but not sure where to get started? Or you’ve dipped your toes in the water but don’t know where to go from there?

I’m an experienced lifestyle and professional Dominatrix with over fourteen years experience is this wonderfully dark world.

I offer Introductory and advanced BDSM workshops in My Brisbane northside dungeon.

When I was first introduced to kink by My partner, I had no idea where to start.  He worked away a lot and I was left to My own devices to research, socialise, explore and (most importantly) practice My newly learned skills.  My first ever experience was a visit to Hellfire Club, a wonderful kinky institution for first timers and long termers alike.

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My BDSM introductory workshop will cover integral areas of communication, consent, and safety, and give you the chance to try out toys and techniques (rope, light bondage, flogging, crops, paddles, prostate play and CBT) under My skilled supervision.

You need to be either in or considering a Dominant/submissive relationship or you already have a play partner.

Email Me at mistressdarkrose@gmail.com or SMS Me to register your interest on 0499 978 955

Mistress Dark Rose

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Here’s what one couple had to say about My training…..

Dear Mistress Dark Rose

I can’t thank you enough for allowing me and my slave access to your wonderful dungeon recently.  He certainly was overwhelmed by the sheer size and all that amazing equipment.  I must admit, not having a dungeon of my own, I was a little wary of the experience too, but you put us both at ease so quickly, we felt like old friends.  Having you guide me through basic restraint, sounding and CBT really has boosted my confidence with my slave.  Also your wicked sense of humour, suspense and timing really heightened the experience for both of us, with unexpectedly pleasant results.  And the time just flew!  We are looking forward to treating ourselves again soon.  Thank you so much.

Mistress K and slave b

TEXT Me to find out more on 0499 978 955

Yours in kink

MDR

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Mistress Dark Rose back in Brisbane

After nearly five years at the Gold Coast, Mistress Dark Rose now writes from Her Brisbane north side dungeon…….

I’ve returned to My first home, Brisbane, with all its kinky and dark pleasures. I changed My hair colour but the biggest change is My dungeon, which is NASTIER than ever! Conveniently located in Hendra, My brand of intensity is now widely available to anyone devoted to suffering at My hands lol MWAH AH AH

 

Mistress Dark Rose returns to Brisbane

And here’s a lovely message from a client I saw YEARS ago…..

Dear Mistress Dark Rose
 
I just wanted to reach out and thank you. We had a session in October 2018 and it was a key experience for my spiritual journey.
 
I remember, I was a mess when I arrived… I was late and scared… you were really ‘gentle’ and in hindsight should have handled me much tougher…
 
However, we opened a channel and I received messages which since then changed my life. It was your guidance and assistance which aided to open these channels. I just wanted to thank you for this precious service and gift, even though it has been more than two years since we met. Since our paths crossed, I had more profound channeling experiences and I remembered ‘my’ name in a dream a couple of nights ago. It reminded me to reach out to you and thank you for helping me on my path.
 
I am still in New Zealand and currently I won’t be able to visit Australia but I hope that our paths will cross again… (it is probably not a secret that I am not a natural sub but it would be a great honour to have another session with you one day where I can stand tall, fully surrendering to you knowing who I am and that I can take on anything).  m
 
Text or email Me today to make your appointment for true “DOMME-ination”
 
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Expectations – Mistress Dark Rose Brisbane

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Expectations – Mistress Dark Rose Ph: 0499 978 955

Mistress Dark Rose writes from Her private dungeon…….

I was overjoyed when asked by a couple to be part of their intimate ritual.  It seems he loves being caned and gets extremely aroused.  Scenarios were discussed, arrangements made, date and time set.  The canes unveiled, admired, chosen and wielded, with gusto.  And yet, the intimate part of the ritual didn’t eventuate.  One can only surmise the apprehension of a visiting a formidable Mistress with Her substantial cane collection proved a bit overwhelming.  Add to that a few strokes of My Singapore cane, enough to daunt the hardiest of cane-lovers…..

Alas, session shortened, money refunded, couple on their way to rethink strategy.  Mistress encourages them to return to fulfill the experience.

The moral of this story – sometimes it does you no good to build something up too much in your mind.  I make a living breathing life into My clients’ fantasies, mostly with pleasant and surprising results.  But there are some times you can overthink a situation/scenario to your detriment.  It’s disappointing for Me too, as a Mistress who loves what I do and relishes in providing My clients with a unique and memorable experience.

UPDATE

I am happy to report My clients came back for another go – six beautiful cold cane strokes.  Love My work!

I saw him again recently, at My new Hendra dungeon, with his lovely partner’s consent, naturally.  Like seeing an old friend.  Lucky My friends like to be punished lol

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