BDSM Tips Newbies Brisbane

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Where to begin

So you’re bored in the bedroom – looking for a way to tantalize yourselves and get that intimacy and sense of fun back? Or you’ve met a kinky partner and have absolutely no idea what to do with them?

Let’s start with what most people do. They go to an adult shop and look at toys, or do research online, or check out porn videos or read blogs to get advice from “professionals”. All these are good methods to help you get ideas, especially to visualize and figure out what presses your buttons.  

BDSM Tips for newbies

Everyone has seen the adults only commercials that promise to make your sex life better than it ever was. Most couples do this together but a confident self-sufficient woman will have no issue visiting an adult shop on her own and asking advice from the staff there as to what are the best options for what she has planned. And men have no objection to their partners getting a bit more diverse in the bedroom. Most men actually relish it.  But will that work out well for you?

Here is an example – your partner may be interested in anal play so you buy a sex toy that promises amazing prostate massage and an intense orgasm. But it winds up being a dud because it wasn’t designed to do the job properly. You can’t take it back, you’ve wasted your money and you both end up disappointed, reluctant to try again.  

You didn’t do anything wrong – you just bought the wrong toy.  This happens to 99 people out of 100.  Most adult shops have at least 20 different prostate massagers on sale, all promising a glorious ending for your partner. Unfortunately hardly any of them work.  So, what to do?  

Regardless of how you go about it, the most important part of embarking on any new venture is communication. This is particularly the case in BDSM as our first commandment is “safe, sane and consensual”. Another acronym you may come across is RACK (risk aware consensual kink). 

Until you become so knowledgeable in your area of interest that you can think on your feet, planning is crucial. That means sitting down with your partner, talking about what activities you want to explore, making lists of what actually does interest them, and what interests you (they don’t have to be the same, but I would recommend starting with the ones you have in common).  Then decide whether or not you feel you can do this safely and with a level of ability and intensity that will suit you both.  

BDSM Tips for newbies

IGNORANCE ISN”T BLISS

While I am writing this from My perspective as a Domme, being unaware of consequences isn’t an excuse for exoneration. Telling a police officer you didn’t know what you were doing is wrong won’t get you out of getting arrested. Our society now is so hell-bent on enforcing our rights as humans, to be treated with dignity and equality, while still recognising the diversity of individuals and cultures.

It defies logic to make assumptions about one’s abilities and another’s consent, especially in a discipline where, on face value, it so blatantly contradicts these norms. You and your partner’s lifestyle activities should be an informed choice between consenting adults.

I’m not here to philosophise but to impress on you the primary rule of BDSM – the importance of making sure you are both fully aware of your actions and their consequences. To do nothing is still a choice.

BDSM Tips for newbies

A sex worker found guilty of causing the death of a client had little experience in “dominatrix-type services”, a court has been told.

Madeleine Joan Lewin, 34, was found guilty for manslaughter in relation to the death of Anthony Brady, whose body was found in a room on the sixth floor of a Cairns hotel.

The Supreme Court in Cairns heard Mr Brady, 52, had arranged to meet Ms Lewin at the Sunshine Tower Hotel on the evening of August 12, 2020.

In his opening address to the jury, Crown prosecutor Nathan Crane said Mr Brady was in the hotel room “under a presumed consensual arrangement”.

But, he alleged, “an inherently dangerous” sex act, which Ms Lewin had oversight of, went wrong.

Mr Crane said Mr Brady was found with his legs and wrists bound, a hood over his head and a gag in his mouth.

The likely cause of his death was “mechanical asphyxiation”.

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