Is My Partner Kinky

Is my partner kinky

Is my partner kinky – ask Mistress Dark Rose.

As a longstanding Professional Dominatrix, I see many clients who have never shared their kinky side with their partners, and never will. Most are married or in long term relationships (sometimes for decades) whose partners haven’t the first clue about the extent of their real inclinations, sexuality or deep desires. And absolutely no interest in finding out. And there’s nothing wrong with that – it is how it is. Of course, those people are the ones who visit Me, either regularly or spasmodically, when their kinky “itch” gets to the point where it needs to be scratched.

Seeing a Professional or experienced Dominatrix has its main benefits in being a discrete, non-judgemental and private environment to connect with your authentic self and explore desires and levels of sexuality you cannot share with your significant other. Not to mention a Pro Domme’s ability to provide intense sensations and evoke states of mind in Her clients safely and without leaving physical marks. Imagine trying to explain ligature or impact marks to your unsuspecting spouse!

I’m so immersed in, and passionate about, the BDSM lifestyle, I routinely ask My clients what steps they’ve taken to get their partners on board with the idea of exploring their kinky sides, not so much to enthusiastically embark on the Kink Train, but at least have a better understanding of their partner’s inclinations and desires. The responses I get are mixed.

For some, that train has long departed, but for others, who’ve just met new partners and/or are getting to know each other on a more intimate level, it’s crucial to know that introducing BDSM practices into a relationship requires open communication, trust, and mutual consent. The same can be said for long term partners who are looking for new ways to spice up their intimacy and deepen their connection.

Is my partner kinky

HOW CAN I GET MY PARTNER INTERESTED IN KINK?

Here are some steps you can take to help get your partner interested in exploring BDSM:

Educate Yourself: Gain a thorough understanding of BDSM practices, dynamics, and safety considerations. Familiarize yourself with different aspects, such as bondage, dominance/submission, and role-playing. This knowledge will help you communicate effectively and address any concerns your partner may have.
Open and Honest Communication: Initiate a conversation with your partner about your interest in exploring BDSM. Choose a comfortable and relaxed setting where you both feel safe to discuss your desires and boundaries. Encourage your partner to express their thoughts, concerns, and curiosities without judgment.
Start Slowly: Introduce BDSM concepts gradually, starting with lighter activities that align with both your comfort levels. This could include using blindfolds, light restraints, or experimenting with power dynamics in a controlled and consensual manner. Make sure to establish a safe word or signal that either of you can use to communicate discomfort or the need to pause.

Explore Mutual Interests: Find areas of BDSM that resonate with both of you. Discuss activities or fantasies that you both find intriguing or exciting. By focusing on shared interests, you can create a foundation for mutual exploration and ensure that you both feel involved and invested in the experience.
Respect Boundaries and Consent: It’s crucial to establish clear boundaries and consent throughout the process. Regularly check in with your partner to ensure they feel comfortable and safe. Encourage open communication during and after BDSM activities to address any concerns or adjustments needed.
Seek Professional Guidance: If you both feel uncertain or want additional support, consider consulting a knowledgeable and experienced BDSM practitioner like Me. They can provide guidance, answer questions, and help navigate the exploration of BDSM in a safe and responsible manner.

Remember, it is essential to respect your partner’s boundaries and interests. Not everyone may be interested in exploring BDSM, and it is crucial to approach the topic with sensitivity and understanding. Consent and open communication should always be the foundation of any BDSM activities.

Sometimes the opportunities to experience BDSM come in surprising ways, as was the case for Me.

I met a partner who had been kinky all his adult life, yet it had never occurred to Me that I might be the slightest bit interested. I’d had a reasonably satisfying vanilla life up to that point, and while the concept of exploring BDSM was never forced on Me, I did feel obliged by My love for him to at least educate Myself about it and experiment with him to satisfy his needs.

Is my partner kinky

MY PARTNER IS INTO KINK – WHAT DO I DO NOW?

If you’ve discovered that your partner is interested in BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism), and you are unsure about it or whether you’re interested, it’s important to approach the situation with open communication and a willingness to learn.

Here are some things you can do:

Educate yourself: Start by gaining a basic understanding of BDSM. Read books, articles, or reputable online resources that explain the different aspects of BDSM, the terminology involved, and the principles of safe, sane, and consensual play. This will help you make informed decisions and have productive conversations with your partner.
Reflect on your boundaries and desires: Take some time to think about your own boundaries, desires, and comfort levels when it comes to BDSM activities. Consider what aspects might interest you or make you uncomfortable. Identifying your limits and knowing what you’re open to will help guide your conversations with your partner.
Have an open and honest conversation: Initiate a conversation with your partner about their interest in BDSM. Express your curiosity and let them know that you’re open to learning more, but also communicate any concerns or reservations you may have. Share your thoughts, fears, and questions, and encourage them to do the same. It’s important to establish clear lines of communication and ensure that both partners feel heard and respected.
Start slow and experiment: If you decide to explore BDSM with your partner, take it slow and start with activities that you feel comfortable with. Consider trying out lighter forms of BDSM, such as role-playing, light bondage, or sensory play. Communicate throughout the process and provide feedback to each other, adjusting the intensity or trying different activities as you both become more comfortable.
Seek guidance from experienced practitioners: Connecting with experienced individuals or joining BDSM communities (online or in person) can provide valuable insights and guidance. Engaging with knowledgeable practitioners like Me who prioritize consent and safety can help you understand the various aspects of BDSM and learn about different play styles.
Prioritize consent and safety: Consent and safety are paramount in any BDSM activities. Establish clear boundaries and use safe words or signals to communicate when an activity needs to stop. Educate yourself on the importance of aftercare, which involves providing comfort and support to each other after a scene. Understanding the risks, practicing risk-aware consensual kink (RACK), or negotiating a safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) approach will help ensure a positive and consensual experience.

Exploring BDSM or any new sexual activity should always be consensual, and you should never feel pressured into doing something you’re uncomfortable with. It’s okay to take your time, learn, and make decisions that align with your own desires and comfort levels.

From My experience, when it comes to kink, just because you’re into it doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is. I say to people, you’re either kinky or you’re not, but you don’t know until you try. BDSM can be a powerful tool to deepen trust, communication and an intimate connection with your partner.

But if you really can’t bring yourself to go there, at least give your partner to opportunity to explore and satisfy their kinky itches with your blessing. I look at it a bit like abseiling. If your partner is really into it, and doing it safely and openly, with responsible fellow kinksters, they’re fulfilling a need which ultimately makes them a better person – their needs are being met so they feel whole and more empowered to have a solid relationship with you.

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PLAY DOESN’T MEAN PLAYING AROUND

It is often challenging for a non-kinky (vanilla) person to grasp the intricacies of kink and its signficance in your partner’s life. Unless you have some understanding of it, what your partner’s particular interests and desires are, and how they expect to meet them, you could be fooled into thinking (quite understandably) that you aren’t “enough” for them.

Any good relationship gives each partner the space and encouragement to fulfil their desires and dreams. If your partner has an irresistable urge to learn latin dancing, or paragliding, or gourment cooking, are you going to stop them!

BDSM is no different, so why not take the opportunity to be involved (directly or indirectly, as you feel comfortable) in their interests and exploration. Enrichment comes from variety and shared experiences. A solid relationship is seated in trust and open communication. If your partner has confidence in you to share their deepest desires, treat it like the gift it is.

Again, like any activity one partner does without the other, be interested and open with your communication and concerns about their activities and interests. BDSM isn’t always about sex, in most instances, but people can develop a deep connection with another kinky play partner, especially a regular one, so it’s important that you’ve set boundaries and expectations with your spouse well before that becomes an issue.

If you’d like to know more about the dynamics of BDSM relationships and how they can best align or co-exist with your situation, please feel free to contact Me.

I offer coaching services to couples getting started in kink and there’s plenty of information on My website to help you navigate this unique opportunity to know your partner on a deeper and more intimate level.

Yours in link

Mistress Dark Rose

0499 978 955

Couples coaching

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Coaching has become a major industry over recent years, and it’s a great way to save you time, effort and heartbreak when you set your sights on becoming skilled in a new occupation.

BDSM is no different. It’s an expensive and immersive lifestyle. It carries inherent risks, making it crucial to consult an expert before attempting activities at home.

The fact that you’re reading this tells Me you’re interested, but is that going to be enough to commit yourselves to learning how to undertake BDSM practices properly and responsibly? Sounds like hard work. And it is. But it does have its rewards.

Sure, you could dabble around in it, but you’d never experience the amazing and intimate connection that comes from genuine Dominance and submission. Maybe you’re not really cut out for kink.

Unless you have a burning desire to scratch your kinky itch, please save your time and money and find some other hedonistic pursuit. While swingers never did much for Me, like a lot of kinksters, it can be adventurous and reasonable safe compared with kink.

Would you take up abseiling without the supervision of a qualified coach? Of course not. But a lot of people seem to think of kink as some little foray into live action sexual role play and dress-ups (nothing against LARPers – what they do can be dangerous too).

It’s commonplace for the greater vanilla (non-BDSM) population to give little forethought to delving into kink practices. Or to think stuff on porn sites is a good representation of kink. Did you know improper use of rope can cause more permanent damage than a knife?

Before you go all 50 Shades of Grey on each other, maybe it’s time to step back and consider getting some expert help.

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BENEFITS OF HAVING A COACH

Engaging the services of a BDSM coach can provide numerous benefits, whether you’re a beginner looking to “learn the ropes” or an experienced player seeking to enhance your skills. Here are some potential advantages of having a coach:

Safety: Safety is paramount in BDSM, and a coach can ensure that you understand and follow proper safety protocols. They can teach you the correct techniques for setting up and using equipment, managing activities, and conducting risk assessments, minimizing the chances of accidents or injuries.

Education and Guidance: A BDSM coach can provide valuable education and guidance on BDSM practices, techniques, and safety protocols. They can help you navigate the complexities of BDSM dynamics, roles, and consent, ensuring you have the knowledge to engage in BDSM activities in a safe and consensual manner.

Skill Development: A BDSM coach can help you develop and refine your skills, regardless of your current level. They can provide personalized instruction, helping you improve your technique, efficiency, and confidence in navigating bondage, impact play, sensory play, or role-playing. They can provide feedback, demonstrations, and practice opportunities to enhance your skills and increase your confidence in exploring different aspects of BDSM.

Progression and Challenge: If you’re an experienced player, a coach can guide you in pushing your limits and taking on more advanced techniques and routes. They can help you set goals, identify areas for improvement, and develop a plan to continuously challenge yourself and expand your abilities.

Equipment and Gear Guidance: A BDSM coach can offer valuable insights on equipment selection, maintenance, and proper usage. They can recommend the most suitable gear for your needs, ensuring you have reliable and appropriate equipment for your BDSM adventures.

Risk Management: BDSM involves assessing and managing risks effectively. A coach can teach you risk management strategies, such as evaluating environmental conditions, understanding anchor systems, and making sound decisions in challenging situations. This knowledge can enhance your ability to make informed judgments and minimize potential hazards.

Confidence and Support: Working with a BDSM coach can boost your confidence by providing a supportive and encouraging environment. They can help you overcome fears or mental barriers, offering guidance and reassurance throughout your bdsm journey.

Exploration of Desires and Fantasies: A BDSM coach can create a safe and non-judgmental space for you to explore your desires, fantasies, and interests. They can assist you in understanding your own BDSM preferences and guide you in translating them into fulfilling experiences.

Emotional Support: Engaging in BDSM activities can sometimes bring up intense emotions or challenges. A BDSM coach can provide emotional support, guidance, and help you navigate any psychological or emotional aspects that may arise during your BDSM journey.

Relationship Enhancement: For couples, working with a BDSM coach can strengthen the emotional bond and trust between partners. It can facilitate deeper communication, foster a greater understanding of each other’s desires, and promote a healthier and more satisfying BDSM dynamic within the relationship.

Remember, the benefits of a BDSM coach may vary depending on your individual goals, experience level, and specific needs.

It’s essential to choose a qualified and experienced coach who prioritizes safety and has a thorough understanding of BDSM techniques and practices.

And equally important to find a coach you connect with, someone who aligns with your values, respects your boundaries, and prioritizes your safety and well-being.

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.HOW TO FIND A COACH

If you don’t live in Brisbane, you can try the following to find a BDSM Coach in your area who specializes in coaching couples:

Online directories: Browse through online directories or BDSM-related websites that list professional Dominants or Mistresses in your area. These directories often provide information about their services and specialties, including coaching for couples.

BDSM community events: Attend local BDSM community events or munches in your area. These events are a great way to meet and connect with individuals who may offer mentoring for couples or be able to provide recommendations.

Online forums and social media groups: Join online forums or social media groups that cater to the BDSM community in your area. Engage with the community and ask for recommendations or advice on finding a Dominant or Mistress who offers coaching for couples.

Remember to do thorough research, read reviews and communicate openly with any potential coach to ensure they align with your needs, boundaries, and expectations. It’s also essential to prioritize consent, safety, and clear communication throughout the coaching process.

However, it’s important to note that the availability and specific services offered can vary among individuals.

If you’re looking to navigate your way around the kinky community, remember to seek advice from genuine kinksters.

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WHY CHOOSE ME

I have been immersed in the world of BDSM as a lifestyle Mistress and professional Dominatrix since 2009. My passion for what I do inspires Me to offer private introductory and advanced BDSM coaching, allowing individuals to explore their desires and enhance their experiences.

When I initially delved into kink, I had no idea where to begin. With My partner frequently away, I took it upon Myself to extensively research, engage with the community, explore various aspects, and, most importantly, practice and refine My skills. Attending numerous play parties and events, I was fortunate to have incredible mentors and willing submissives who played a significant role in My growth.

However, I understand the current landscape makes it challenging to find mentors or opportunities for learning. Many couples prefer privacy and seek a safe space to explore BDSM without the presence of others. Public play spaces lack the necessary privacy and support for newcomers.

And sex shops aren’t much help either. Their primary focus is selling products, so their knowledge is questionable.

With over a decade of experience, My service is specialized and discreet. My nursing background gives Me unique skills in reading people, especially under duress, and I’m a safety guru who has been teaching and mentoring people for many years on how to play safely.

My aim is to empower individuals and couples with the expertise, guidance, and skills they need to navigate the world of BDSM safely, responsibly, and with maximum enjoyment.

Dear Mistress Dark Rose

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I can’t thank you enough for allowing me and my slave access to your wonderful dungeon recently. He certainly was overwhelmed by all that amazing equipment. I must admit, not having a dungeon of my own, I was a little wary of the experience too, but you put us both at ease so quickly, we felt like old friends. Having you guide me through basic restraint, sounding and CBT really has boosted my confidence with my slave. Also your wicked sense of humour, suspense and timing really heightened the experience for both of us. And the time just flew! We are looking forward to treating ourselves again soon. Thank you so much.

Text Me to make a time to see Me or find out more about My services

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach

Hendra, Brisbane 9 – 9 daily

0499 978 955

Chastity the long story

Chastity the long story by Mistress Dark Rose.

Mistress Dark Rose writes from Her private dungeon….

After all his ruminating, slave t finally succumbed to My power and went home snugly locked in his chastity device, the Holy Trainer, a terrific light and almost fool-proof device I purchased from Black Rabbit Premium Leather (thanks Alex!).

Here’s a little history of how things went down…

1. Ready to start, restrained so no backing out now, slave t

2. Shaved with a pretty pink ladies trimmer – how appropriate!

3. A little ball-stretching and electrical stimulation to liven things up and make your last release a memorable one

4. Your last release over and done with – better start counting the days until your next one, slave t. It may be quite a while!

5. Your little worm’s new home – nice tight fit, isn’t it? It’ll be tighter when your little worm wakes you up tomorrow morning, won’t it?

19 August

Slave t furnished Me with a poem describing his dilemma. slave t wrote:

Week of success, thwarting Mistress, no submission or return trip.
Expect trouble, stakes will double, She likes steering the tightest ship.
Each day release, price will increase, subjected to punishing whip.
Knickers for slave, no longer brave, no escape from her iron grip.
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Changing my ways, frustrating days, i’m suffering locked and downsized.
Helpless serpent, tight argument, more stressful than first realised.
Attempts to slide, out are denied, anti pullout won’t be compromised.
No release date, Domme controls fate, wanting wicked mind exorcised.

Got to accept, whilst being kept, ensures status is recognised.
It’s Her mission, full submission, then more punishments are advised.
No rights remain, driven insane, but appeals will be penalised.
Get together, She’ll wear leather, and passenger forced feminised.

26 August

Again, slave t wrote:

Cell keeps order, hugging boarder, controlling the reluctant guest.
Enslavements still, a bitter pill, long nights of discord and unrest.
Logical course, submit to force, but cunning plans often go west.
Leader can’t wait, to masturbate, or accept Her stunning conquest.

I had previously ignored the bleating, but must admit was inspired by slave t’s poetic persistence and felt a need to reply accordingly. I wrote

Unwilling guest will give you no rest
Pondering its unhappy fate
Until Mistress decrees the worm can be freed
But She will determine the date.

And so the anthology was birthed..

For easier reading, My responses are in bold type

27 August

Cock in training, no regaining, freedom that will endorse playing.
Oppressive cell, is working well, the outlaw is certainly paying.
Collector grins, She always wins, really enjoys serpent slaying.
Knowing drama, is good karma, punishing device is staying.

28 August

Sixteen days into slave t’s chastity quest:

Mistress has me, at Her mercy, forcing slave to respect great divide.
i’m lower house, Cheshire Cats mouse, appealing and complaints denied.
Seeking release, sees time increase, soon change in tactics are tried.
Staying silent, more punishment, and pleads to explain brushed aside.

The lower house member continues to believe
It’s situation temporary
Soon the reprieve
At Keyholder’s whim
But She has no desire
So prospect looks grim

29 August

The trial continues – I’m as proud of his resolve as I am amused at his suffering.

Try to revolt, then lightning bolt, returns hopes are frazzled and fried.
Escape bids fail, no holy grail, locked device controls macho pride.
So Dommes mission, full submission, accept theres no turning the tide.
Stress is growing, fear of knowing, Keyholder has time on her side

31 August

Worm never rests, nightly protests, soon inmate starts trying to swell.
Outright despair, dream turns nightmare, tormented ones filling the cell.
Risking more pain, trying to gain, release to bid pressure farewell.
Moment of grief, still no relief, no breaking the Dommes wicked spell.

The worm will continue to struggle and throb
In hope imprisonment will finish
But rest assured, it’s doubt will endure
For Her resolve will not diminish

4 September

Four days now with no word of the worm’s plight
Mistress is concerned slave has given up the fight
Weakness has won
The device is undone
The serpent has shown its true might.

Chastity the long story

5 September

(No freedom, was without computer for a few days. Mind You it is very tempting to break the seal on the envelope, but that would only show weakness, and although Your power base seems set in stone, You still haven’t broken me. na na na na na lol.)

Time to submit? no musn’t quit, keep resisting Dommes siren song.
I crave release, but will increase, my efforts to prove Mistress wrong.
Missing my mate, no freedom date, willpower has to remain strong.
Enduring hell, hoping Her spell, can be broken before too long.

Mistress is pleased the worm is still bound
To be freed at Her whim
But Her resolve is still sound
The key won’t turn yet
For the date’s not been set
So the serpent will not be unwound

7 September

Date to arrange, freedom or change?, unlocking then scratching an itch.
Aspleys the place, to review case, will Judge want more time to bewitch.
Transfer She grants, knickers for pants, no mercy whilst enforcing switch.
Exit still locked, taunted and mocked, better drive carefully you bitch.

8 September

Your attempts to defy Mistress may not abate
Yet it is She who will determine the serpent’s fate
Mistress is as stubborn as She is strict
Forthcoming release impossible to predict
A review needed it is agreed
The date has not yet been decreed

Chastity the long story

9 September

Day 22 for slave t’s chastity journey – he’s a tough nut to crack, but I will win. Hehe

Lock remains closed, Her will imposed, wickedness that defies belief.
Oppressive hold, making me fold, no access to defence or brief.
Cock’s rebelling, often swelling, for twenty days nothing but grief.
Keyholders sure, slave can endure, at least double before relief

12 September

Though it’s difficult to dwell
On the worm’s nightly swell
Giving in maybe the cure
Cock must continue to wait
Contemplating its fate
Keyholder’s desire to endure

13 September

Damn this device, huge sacrifice, but really my fault i suppose.
A strange feeling, trouble dealing, with foolish decision i chose.
Maybe i can, help fellow man, with this wise advice i disclose.
Never forget, you will regret, being locked by Mistress Dark Rose

15 September

Alas, slave t’s chastity torment continues. I know his release date, but he doesn’t. Hehe

25 days, no end in sight
While the poor serpent endures its plight
Ill considered decisions hold much weight
Uncertainty governs the prisoner’s fate
While Keyholder’s will still shows Her might.

Poem Domme sent, shows She’s hell bent, on extending chastity term.
Oppressive judge, Mistress won’t budge, no mercy, just wicked and firm.
Enslaved serpent, has nearly spent, a whole month downsized to worm.
Mind to reshape, there’s no escape, deep breath as i tremble and squirm.

18 September

Four weeks dueling, its been grueling, sure glad i kept persevering.
Oppressive grip, begins to slip, now that release date is nearing.
Unlocked serpent, with Dommes consent, escaping Her domineering.
Repeat the term, will remains firm, no more foolish volunteering.

Domme will decide the appointed date
To see slave and determine the worm’s fate
Four weeks does feel like a long time
Though Keyholder is yet to define
What She feels is sufficient time.

19 September

Domme’s determined to keep the worm shut in
A release date possible only at Her whim
Habit’s form easily after time passes
And the serpent finds comfort in its new home
Struggles less disturbing as time moves on
The certainty of Her will well known.

Chastity the long story

20 September

Full submission, ruthless mission, no mercy from wicked Mistress.
Uneven match, no escape hatch, grip tighter than hydraulic press.
Limits to test, signs of unrest, will see hopes of freedom regress.
Lessons to learn, tables wont turn, its Keyholders right to oppress.

Four weeks running, Serpent’s cunning, has not escaped Mistress’ hold
Nightly swells won’t relent
Worm stays in torment
Waits for release date to unfold
Yet it is clear, Domme is severe
Determined to keep Her stronghold

21 September

Well, surprisingly, slave t has proved his dedication to chastity and has exceeded four weeks, quite good for his first go at it. Release date may be close, but then again it may not……hehe

Hope is waning, Domme is gaining, power through strict subjugation.
Once rampant snake, forced to forsake, pleasure through incarceration.
Proving Her point, slave to annoint, release might change situation.
Eager to keep, training black sheep, She aims for more deprivation.

Worm is learning, tide is turning
Transformation is almost complete
Locked in its cell, despite nightly hell
Squashed as if by Keyholder’s feet
Held at Her whim, prospect looks grim, for any sign of defeat
When slave toilets, just like a maid, remember to leave down the seat

Chastity the long story

25 September

Alas, slave t’s chastity journey came to an abrupt end when he had a fall and cracked a few ribs. As he was hospitalised, he removed his chastity device. Lucky he had that emergency key I gave him!

Dear Mistress Dark Rose

Sorry but I had to free myself. Late yesterday i tripped over out in my yard, and fell against the low retaining wall cracking 2 of my ribs. After a hellish night i went to the health centre this morning, and thats when i found out what the damage was. I knew there would probably be x rays involved so i unlocked. Well one part of my body is in heaven, the rest feels like a train hit it. Seems i need to move slowly for a couple of weeks, not much choice really. Well You would have won in the very near future, i couldnt take much more, so its 1-0 to You unless i’m granted an honourable draw.

Yours suffering differently slave t.

Oh dear. Sorry to hear about your accident slave t. But that was one of the reasons I gave you an emergency key. As far as your first foray into chastity I say well done. I didn’t think you would make it as far as you did. And I did enjoy our poetic exchanges. Let Me know how you are feeling about continuing with chastity training when your ribs are better. Cheers MDR

28 September

Ribs are aching, but cock’s making, the most of the freedom it craved.
In locked device, convict paid price, stern lessons when it misbehaved.
Bet strict Mistress, enjoyed distress, i suffered for five weeks enslaved.
Setting a course, keen to enforce, repeat of worm downsized and shaved.

Don’t worry, slave t, I am not disappointed. I am actually quite proud of your efforts and devotion (31 days for your first go is well regarded) but I must admit I will miss our poetic exchanges. Get well soon, slave t. I look forward to continuing your journey. MDR

11 November

Slave t plans to make a comeback when his ribs are healed. And it seems he’s been doing his research whilst supposedly “free”.

As Keyholder gets nearer
Her intention is clearer
To cause the worm much distress
Whether gently caressed
Or roughly stripped and womanly dressed
It will once again be the property of your Mistress.

25 November

It seems the tide is turning for chastity slave t, whose ribs are nearly healed. Obviously he must be better, as the taunts resumed. His attempts at cheekiness won’t go unnoticed though, once the Keyholder is in closer proximity……beware!
He even crafted My impending response for Me. Here it is…

Move is complete, there’s no retreat, complete control having you locked.
Order restored, seems you ignored, my determined ways whilst you mocked.
Vanquished by Me, minus spare key, behaving as if you’re shell shocked.
Enforced stripping, now a whipping, and yes you are going home frocked.

Chastity the long story

31 November

Funny how you don’t need a device to be under the control of a Mistress. slave t is very preoccupied with his chastity, even without wearing his device, it seems!

Worm to caress, knowing Mistress, wants to prevent coexisting.
Outlaw is mine, plans to confine, will see Your target resisting.
Ruthless intent, at appointment, enslaved if You keep persisting.
Macho defeat, locking complete, driving home with knickers twisting.

6 December

slave t continues to taunt his Mistress, with updates on his recent purchases of nasty chastity devices. He’s just bought a set of Kali’s teeth at My suggestion, yet has made no attempt to see Me again before I relocate to the Gold Coast in a few weeks. Watch out then, slave t. You’ll have NO excuses then.

Cage Mistress likes, punishing spikes, Her pleasure cannot be disguised.
A huge defeat, controls complete, worm must remain still and downsized.
Got to visit, slave must submit, just hopeful term might get revised.
Error for sure, fetters secure, Domme’s leading me out feminised.

16 December

I can sense slave t’s apprehension at the prospect of Me moving to the Gold Coast. The date is fast approaching when he will be back in his chastity device (the one of My choosing) having been trimmed, feminised and frocked for his recent taunts.

I wonder which one I will choose next, the Holy Trainer or Kali’s Teeth?

Chastity works, Keyholder smirks, slave shudders as She is seated.
He’s in trouble, wicked double, worm downsized and balls maltreated.
Awesome mission, full submission, Mistress want all rights depleted.
Striving to please, subdued with ease, shameful tests often repeated.

Torment and pain, efforts to gain, freedom can sometimes get heated.
Intent stays strong, appeals are wrong, each visit sees him defeated.
Teaser who mocked, forcefully frocked, tied until whippings completed.
Yielding once more, going home sore, no sign of keys She secreted.

Suspense is a Mistress’ greatest weapon so I’m not going to tell you how this story ends or continues. Thanks for your interest.

Chastity the long story

The Pros and Cons of Long-Term Chastity (Men)

Pros:

Improved focus and productivity: By removing the distraction of sexual desires, men who wear long-term chastity devices can focus more on other aspects of their lives, such as work, hobbies, and personal growth.

Increased intimacy: Chastity devices can create a stronger sense of intimacy between partners, as the wearer becomes more attentive to their partner’s needs and desires.

Sexual exploration: Chastity devices can encourage sexual exploration and experimentation, as both partners must find new ways to experience pleasure without relying on traditional forms of sex.

Heightened arousal: The longer a man wears a chastity device, the more sensitive and aroused they become, leading to more intense sexual experiences once the device is removed.

Cons:

Physical discomfort: Long-term chastity devices can cause discomfort, chafing, and even pain, especially if the device is not properly fitted or worn for extended periods.

Erectile dysfunction can be a common side effect of long-term chastity. The inability to achieve or maintain an erection can occur due to the lack of sexual stimulation and release over an extended period. It’s essential to discuss potential side effects with a healthcare professional before engaging in any long-term chastity play.

Emotional distress: Some men may experience emotional distress or anxiety due to the loss of control over their sexual desires and the inability to engage in sexual activity.

Health risks: Wearing a chastity device for extended periods can increase the risk of urinary tract infections, skin irritation, and other health issues.

Relationship issues: If not discussed and agreed upon with both partners, the use of a long-term chastity device can cause issues in the relationship, such as resentment or feelings of neglect.

It’s important to consider these pros and cons carefully before deciding whether long-term chastity is right for you or your partner. Communication, consent, and proper fitting and hygiene of the device are key to a positive and healthy experience. Erectile dysfunction is a “biggie” and something I address through rehabilitation work during the chastity process. If you think you can “go the distance”, message Me for an appointment.

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach

0499 978 955

BDSM Tips for newbies

BDSM Tips for Newbies with Mistress Dark Rose.

WHERE TO BEGIN

BDSM Tips for newbies

So you’re bored in the bedroom – looking for a way to tantalize yourselves and get that intimacy and sense of fun back? Or you’ve met a kinky partner and have absolutely no idea what to do with them?

Let’s start with what most people do. They go to an adult shop and look at toys, or do research online, or check out porn videos or read blogs to get advice from “professionals”. All these are good methods to help you get ideas, especially to visualize and figure out what presses your buttons.

Everyone has seen the adults only commercials that promise to make your sex life better than it ever was. Most couples do this together but a confident self-sufficient woman will have no issue visiting an adult shop on her own and asking advice from the staff there as to what are the best options for what she has planned. And men have no objection to their partners getting a bit more diverse in the bedroom. Most men actually relish it.

But will that work out well for you?

BDSM Tips for newbies

Here is an example – your partner may be interested in anal play so you buy a sex toy that promises amazing prostate massage and an intense orgasm. But it winds up being a dud because it wasn’t designed to do the job properly. You can’t take it back, you’ve wasted your money and you both end up disappointed, reluctant to try again.

You didn’t do anything wrong – you just bought the wrong toy. This happens to 99 people out of 100. Most adult shops have at least 20 different prostate massagers on sale, all promising a glorious ending for your partner. Unfortunately hardly any of them work. So, what to do?

Regardless of how you go about it, the most important part of embarking on any new venture is communication. This is particularly the case in BDSM as our first commandment is “safe, sane and consensual”. Another acronym you may come across is RACK (risk aware consensual kink).

Until you become so knowledgeable in your area of interest that you can think on your feet, planning is crucial.

That means sitting down with your partner, talking about what activities you want to explore, making lists of what actually does interest them, and what interests you (they don’t have to be the same, but I would recommend starting with the ones you have in common). Then decide whether or not you feel you can do this safely and with a level of ability and intensity that will suit you both.

BDSM Tips for newbies

IGNORANCE ISN”T BLISS

While I am writing this from My perspective as a Domme, being unaware of consequences is no excuse for exoneration. Telling a police officer you didn’t know what you were doing is wrong won’t get you out of getting arrested. Our society now is so hell-bent on enforcing our rights as humans, to be treated with dignity and equality, while still recognising the diversity of individuals and cultures. It’s a fine line we now walk.

It defies logic to make assumptions about one’s abilities and another’s consent, especially in a discipline where, on face value, it so blatantly contradicts these norms. Regardless of opinions, you and your partner’s lifestyle activities should be an informed choice between consenting adults.

I’m here to impress on you the primary rule of BDSM – the importance of making sure you are both fully aware of your actions and their consequences. To do nothing is still a choice.

BDSM Tips for newbies

A sex worker found guilty of causing the death of a client had little experience in “dominatrix-type services”, a court has been told.

Madeleine Joan Lewin, 34, was found guilty for manslaughter in relation to the death of Anthony Brady, whose body was found in a room on the sixth floor of a Cairns hotel.

The Supreme Court in Cairns heard Mr Brady, 52, had arranged to meet Ms Lewin at the Sunshine Tower Hotel on the evening of August 12, 2020.

In his opening address to the jury, Crown prosecutor Nathan Crane said Mr Brady was in the hotel room “under a presumed consensual arrangement”.

But, he alleged, “an inherently dangerous” sex act, which Ms Lewin had oversight of, went wrong.

Mr Crane said Mr Brady was found with his legs and wrists bound, a hood over his head and a gag in his mouth.

The likely cause of his death was “mechanical asphyxiation”.

BDSM Tips for newbies

Find out more about My BDSM coaching for couples here.

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach

0499 978 955

A World class Domina

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A client recently wrote to Me after our first session and referred to Me as a “World Class Domina”.

I was quite chuffed. Many clients often tell Me what a great session they had, and I have a long list of appreciative slaves and masos I see on a regular basis – it’s like catching up with old friends, the ones who like getting a beating lol

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But this client stood out for a few reasons…

Firstly he was well traveled and sophisticated, well spoken, a true gentleman. His manners were impeccable and he treated Me with what I can only describe as “true devotion” to My sex and My craft.

But what stood out most noticeably for Me was, when he first arrived and I welcomed him into My dungeon, he shook so violently with fear that he could barely follow My instructions or look in My direction.

Instinctively, I did what I knew would calm his nerves – I put a collar on him.

The effect was instantaneous. He went from an incoherent, shaking mess to a confident, eager and devoted servant, head bowed, ready to begin.

Every blow was met with genuine appreciation, and his tolerance certainly pleased Me no end. It’s common knowledge I’m a proud Sadist, and this man, although not masochistically inclined, was willing to do anything for his Mistress’ pleasure. I was delighted.

He told Me he had been visiting fetish establishments around the world for over 40 years in his travels as an engineer. But since retiring, he had been disappointed at not being able to find a genuinely skilled Dominatrix. He was willing to go great distances to see a proper Mistress but, like many, Covid had stifled his travel plans.

Imagine his delight at finding Me, practically on his doorstep! As confident I felt that he would return, I was not sure how much of an impression I had made, until he wrote to Me some weeks later. As with all My clients’ reviews, he has given Me permission to share his words…

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“Dear Mistress Dark Rose

It was my absolute pleasure to spend time in Your dungeon recently. I hope I didn’t make too poor a showing when I first arrived.

May I say I have visited many dungeons and seen many amazing Dominatrices over my lifetime, but my visit with You dulls the memories of those past experiences. It’s so obvious how much You love what You do. You are subtle and gracious and Your intuition and skills are penultimate.

Please accept the gratitude of this discerning slave as one who knows the value of a World Class Domina. I do hope You will see me again soon. Your humble slave, g.”

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Text or email Me to experience true Domination.

.My services are listed on My website

Yours in kink

Mistress Dark Rose

0499 978 955

A Healthy Dominant

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The benefits of being a healthy Dominant

Who in their right mind could expect a submissive to refrain from over eating, drinking alcohol, taking drugs or smoking when they themselves are not in a position to be regarded as healthy?

Whipping, flogging, restraining someone, and impact play in general take a lot of physical exertion. If you’re not in a position to be able to wrestle your submissive to the ground, how can you expect to truly dominate them?

Power is not so much being physical as the impression of it. Why are there so many images of large strong women standing over weak little submissive men? It’s an idyll that has been depicted in BDSM art and culture for a long long time. The domineering missus, the hen-pecked husband – all symbolic – yet they have a firm basis in physical activities, punishment, and proving devotion through suffering.

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Being a good Dominant is more than just physical. It takes a well-disciplined mind to be effective. Mindset involves real focus, often restraining oneself as a Dominant, reeling it in when the situation requires, and being able to read people, especially under duress.

The Dominant has an obligation, particularly in the legal sense, to act responsibly towards their submissive. Their submissive has given themselves over with wholehearted trust in their Dominant’s ability to take care of their best interests, not violate consent, and give them a desirous experience.

Don’t get Me wrong – suspense is a Mistress’ greatest weapon, that and a precognitive sense of timing, knowing when someone is nearing their physical limits. I think most people have good intuition, so using that in a domination setting is crucial.

Having your wits about you is essential, so alcohol and drugs are a definite no-no.

Mood management is also important, therefore a healthy diet and regular exercise go a long way to contributing to feeling good and reducing mental stress and distractions.

If someone is willing to trust you 100%, can you be sure you can bring your best?

A Mistress with a red wine in one hand and a flogger in the other makes no sense.

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach

0499 978 955

Tips for Fetlife and BDSM starters

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The idiots’ guide to fetlife

As a lifestyle Mistress and professional Dominatrix, I get many requests on fetlife from new (and old) slaves. There seems to be lot of confusion out there as to how best to approach a Mistress so here’s a few pointers.

1. Address a Dominant as they wish to be addressed – you need to ask, not assume.

2. Read profiles properly before contacting anyone – otherwise you’re likely to be admonished, most likely you’ll just be ignored (and left wondering why). The other side of the coin is you may be giving your adoration to someone who doesn’t deserve it – read back on their history and comments etc before you devote yourself to them

3. Please address Me as Mistress, not Goddess. If you’d read My profile properly, you would know I’m not into body worship, nor am I looking for a slave/boi.

4. Careful with your wording, especially if messaging someone. “Considering” has a different meaning in BDSM than real life, for example.

5. Join some groups (type your interest into the Search bar) and learn from mentors of similar nature, be polite and ask questions.. Make sure to read the group rules before you join, you don’t want to get kicked out because you overlooked it

6. Don’t post opinions on anything – fetlife is for networking, not gossip or bad karma – there’s already plenty of that IRL

7. Try to meet people at munches and social gatherings – don’t go out with the sole purpose of “looking” for a Dominant. If you search “Places”, you’ll find local activities there. The right person will come along – it will happen organically and as it’s supposed to

8. The most important thing to keep in mind is it isn’t all about you. Think about what you can bring to the relationship/scene. Lots of subs and slaves are naturally shy, but you’re going to have to get well out of your comfort zone to please a Dominant, so why not start with getting yourselves out there? Serving at a luncheon or volunteering for a working bee or a dungeon cleaning day is a good way to get noticed and enjoy the benefits of giving service to others.

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With these rules in mind, I’m sure you’ll find it easier to explore this amazing lifestyle with confidence and meet many wonderful like minded kinksters.

But always remember, follow your instincts. Just because someone says they’re a Dominant doesn’t make them a good Dominant.

Don’t give yourself over to someone who hasn’t earned their stripes.

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach and Author

Brisbane 0499 978 955

What kind of Domme are you?

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My evolution

When I met My first BDSM partner in 2009 he had been in the kink scene for all of his adult life. He kept telling me I was a Domme. I had no idea what that meant.

what kind of domme are you So I did a lot of research online and I joined sites like fetlife.com, alt.com and collar.me and soon figured out I was dominant / bossy by My very nature. And I became totally enamored with the kink scene. I took to the lifestyle with gusto, attending every party, munch and event I could to learn how to be a good Domme.

I aligned Myself with good mentors and took every opportunity afforded Me to be coached, to play and get real hands-on experience. Apologies to the devoted slaves who suffered mis-hits in My earliest attempts.

One day, early in our journey, My partner and I were planning a scene. He told Me scenes have to be planned well ahead, negotiated and agreed before any play actually starts. I told him I preferred spontaneity to which he laughingly replied “If you want to do that, you’ll have to be really f*cking good!” So that’s exactly what I did. And now – I’m really f*cking good! lol

It wasn’t until a few years later I discovered I was also a sadist. Saying I discovered it was not really correct. It was actually nurtured / borne out by a submissive mentor and long-term fetish friend.what kind of domme

Being labelled a Domme doesn’t necessarily cover the full nature of Dominance in My experience. I’ve come across so many types of domination – to categorise yourself under a singular banner like “Domme” is IMHO a misnomer.

Mistress “archetypes”

I’ve encountered many different styles over the years – from women who just want to be the “boss in the bedroom” to sadists whose singular satisfaction comes from torturing their submissives / slaves.

There are women who want to humiliate and objectify their slaves. Others who want their slaves to prove devotion through trials of pain and suffering.

Then there are the ones who just want to be worshipped and adored (including body worship), being waited on hand and foot by a devoted servant.

Although I’ve outlined some of the more typical archetypes I’ve encountered during My years in the scene, it’s important to note a Mistress can embody any or all of these types.

A Mistress can be anything She puts Her mind to, and Her tastes and interests can change over time.

This isn’t a “one size fits all” label; it’s merely a starting point for understanding the diverse range of Dominant personalities out there.

what kind of domme

Being a sadist by nature, I’m the kind of Domme who likes My servants to undergo trials to prove their devotion to Me. This can been done in many ways – financial tributes, gifts, acts of service, enduring pain and suffering, deprivation (of senses and liberty) at My hand. Masos are My genuine favourites, naturally.

Although I am inclined to show great amusement at My slaves’ discomfort, I’m not someone who is into humiliation or degradation as I feel it has negative connotations and is not a good base for a deep connection with someone.

I’m not saying Dommes have to fit into one specific category but the majority of My nature fits into the “trials to prove devotion” category. I have had My share of body worship over time with play partners. Not in my professional career. I’m a little old-fashioned in that I don’t believe a Domme should have to be undressed in the presence of a client, let alone sharing body fluids. I have on occasion done golden showers, now I prefer to put My urine in a bowl to make sure none of it is wasted.

It’s been a fascinating adventure being in the fetish community. I have a natural interest in the perverse (don’t we all?). I’ve always felt comfortable around naked people of all ages and genders, having been a registered nurse (My first career) for 13 years. Those years of nursing taught Me so much about reading people, especially under duress, how to watch body language, how to establish rapport and trust with the people I deal with.

Being open, honest and forthright (professional) has held Me in good stead over the years. It isn’t that I command respect as a Dominant (respect should be earned, not blindly given) but I do expect it. Having spent many years honing My skills and treating people well I feel I deserve respect – I’ve earned My stripes.

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What about you?

So what kind of Domme are you, or what do you aspire to be? I’ve had the benefit of some really great mentors over the years, some not even dominant. But how to find them? – especially now there are less chances to socialise than there were “back in the good old days” when I first got into the scene in 2009.

We’re lucky to have resources like fetlife.com to do some really good research, join groups, have discussions, socialise and have genuine questions answered by like-minded souls all over the world.

This isn’t a plug for fetlife as such – if I could have found another site that was more informative, I’d be plugging that. I’m just grateful I did most of My apprenticeship through “real life” situations. But I didn’t get there by not doing My online research first.

Dommes have a huge responsibility – to be knowledgeable and skilled. Don’t expect to be worshipped, respected or trusted if you can’t get your act together.

You owe it to your slaves / submissives to earn their willingness to serve you.

Here are some links to help get you a ticket on the Mistress Train…

How To Tell The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants – The BDSM Training Academy

SHE COMES FIRST Read Online Free Without Download – PDF, ePub, Fb2 eBooks by Ian Kerner (readanybook.com)

Yours in kink

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach and Author

Brisbane 0499 978 955

Newbies and diehards welcome

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Newbies and diehards welcome in My Dungeon

As an experienced BDSM Mistress and Sadist, I encounter people of all ages and backgrounds to play with.

Establishing that first connection leads to a uniquely memorable experience for My clients. I’m able to do that because I am a consummate professional and a good communicator. I can put people at ease within minutes of first meeting Me.

It’s not a gift – it’s a skill I’ve worked hard on over the years. And I’ve done it because I’m altruistically by nature. I want everyone I meet to be better for having spent time with Me.

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I specialise in “intensity”

I love this lifestyle – I love the energy and fun that comes from a sensual dynamic with another person or couple. Co-topping is one of My favourites – it’s so gratifying being able to give back to this amazing lifestyle.

I never stop learning. I’m always keen to know more and learn from others (and My own experiences, of course).

It’s a hedonistic way of life, and so much fun! Who would want it any other way?

Whether you’re a diehard maso or a newbie with few notions of what to expect, our first encounter will be memorable and tailored to what presses your buttons. That is, unless you leave it to My devices. Then you’ll be challenged and impressed by how well you served your Mistress.

I won’t leave any physical marks on you (unless it’s agreed), but you won’t forget your time with Me.

Remember, the true value of seeing a traditional lifestyle Dominatrix lies in their expertise, skill, professionalism, and the unique experiences they offer. It’s about finding a connection based on trust, respect, and mutual exploration.

Newbies and diehards welcome

Awesome experience, thank you, Mistress! I admit I was pretty apprehensive when I arrived at Your place and saw all that equipment in Your dungeon, but You made me feel at ease quickly.

Your friendly attitude gave me the confidence to try new stuff, and I am glad I did. I lost all track of time and space, and was swept away by all those new sensations (yes, some pretty intense, but no more than I could handle).

At the end of it, I felt like I’d been in ecstasy for hours, and there wasn’t a mark on me. But the memory will burn for a long time. Thank you again, Mistress. I can’t wait to see what You have in store for me on my next visit. You are a true professional.

Newbies and diehards welcome

Text or email Me today to come and test yourself…

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach and Author

0499 978 955

Skill versus looks

When it comes to seeking the services of a traditional lifestyle Dominatrix, it’s essential to recognize the value of skill over looks. While physical appearance may be a consideration for some, the true benefits lie in the expertise, experience, and mastery that a skilled Dominatrix brings to the table.

Expertise and Knowledge: A skilled Dominatrix has dedicated significant time and effort to honing their craft. They possess a deep understanding of BDSM practices, psychology, and the art of domination. Their knowledge allows them to create customized experiences tailored to your desires, limits, and boundaries.

Professionalism and Safety: Skillful Dominatrices prioritize professionalism and safety above all else. They adhere to strict protocols to ensure a safe, consensual, and respectful environment. They possess the ability to read and understand their submissives, creating an atmosphere of trust and communication.

Creativity and Variety: Skillful Dominatrices are masters of creativity. They possess a vast repertoire of techniques, scenarios, and play styles to keep your experiences fresh, exciting, and continuously evolving. They can cater to a wide range of interests and tailor sessions to suit your specific desires.

Emotional Support and Empathy: A skilled Dominatrix understands the emotional dynamics involved in power exchange and BDSM. They possess the ability to provide emotional support and guidance throughout your journey, creating a safe space for you to explore and express your desires without judgment.

Personal Growth and Self-Discovery: Engaging with a skilled Dominatrix can lead to profound personal growth and self-discovery. Through the power dynamics and exploration of boundaries, you can gain a deeper understanding of yourself, your desires, and your limits. It can be a transformative journey that expands your self-awareness and allows you to embrace your authentic self.

My style of FUNishment

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My style of FUNishment

It’s no surprise that I’m a caning and corporal punishment specialist – I am a Sadist, after all lol

I have a vast collection of canes and impact toys, and enjoy challenging My clients with My unique style of “FUNishment”.

I specialise in “intensity”

I’ve been a lifestyle and Professional Domme for over 14 years now and have honed My skills so I can deliver intensity in a safe and effective manner.

I’m also a BDSM purist and believe wholeheartedly in respect for My skills and demeanour. Having said that, I am friendly, caring and easy to spend time with.

Why not experience My style of intensity for yourself? I can promise it will be challenging but you will be pleasantly surprised at how you perform in My presence.

My well-appointed private dungeon is located in Hendra, 4km north of the Brisbane CBD. It’s available for hire, so please PM Me or check My website if you want to know more.

Here’s what slave m had to say about his last visit…

I asked for a good spanking and that is what MDR gave me. I have known and allowed MDR to play with me since 2015, either impact play or dressing me up as a sissy. I have always come away fulfilled. And sore lol MDR is both beautiful and a hard taskmaster with a caring soul. I would invite anyone to visit and have the pleasure of Her domination.

My fees and other interests are listed on My website. I do not undress or offer full service.

Message Me for an appointment to experience true Domination.

Mistress Dark Rose

Lifestyle Mistress ~ Professional Dominatrix ~ BDSM Coach

0499 978 955